Why I Created This Space
I didn’t create Sarah’s Sofa because I have it all figured out.
I created it because I don’t.
To be honest, I haven’t figured out much in my forty years. I keep trying, but lately, I’ve grown tired.
Tired of performing wellness. Tired of scrolling past curated vulnerability designed and edited to elicit likes and follows. Tired of shrinking my truth to make it palatable. Tired of presenting myself. Tired of being ‘seen’ as my Facebook personae. Tired of social media in general.
I’m just tired.
What This Space Is (and Isn’t)
This isn’t a brand. I am not, and will not be, a brand. I’m a person seeking community.
It’s not a business.
I’m not seeking sponsorships or followers—and I’d probably turn them down anyway.
Sarah’s Sofa is a community building endeavor and a creative outlet.
A place where people can sit with their mess and their magic and feel equally held.
Where healing isn’t a checklist, performance, or destination.
Where being in community doesn’t mean pretending to be okay.
Why It Matters
I’ve spent years navigating my own healing alone—the quiet, ugly unpacking that only happens after you shatter. I have been doing healing that’s too real for most people, too dark for social media, and too heavy to talk about without trigger warnings.
And I kept thinking, if most trauma happens within relationships, maybe I actually need relationships to heal. There had to be a place where I could unravel in community.
A place for my story.
For my grief.
For my rage.
For my joy.
For my healing.
For discovering my self beyond the shoulds.
But not a place just for me.
A place for anyone who doesn’t seem to belong anywhere else.
So I made one. Or I’m trying to anyway.
What You’ll Find Here
Sarah’s Sofa is a place to land softly with others.
To speak.
To listen.
To be seen.
To talk about heartbreak and belonging and loneliness and sex and shame and joy and family and parenting and cycle breaking and selfhood and whatever else needs to get out.
The forum is a work in progress where you can share whatever you want to. Nothing is off limits, but make sure to check out the community guidelines before posting. You can create a user profile by clicking “Take a Seat On the Sofa” and choose your username. My hope is that by endorsing, anonymity, it will help us share more openly and vulnerably, without the pressure to show up the way we “should”.
Eventually, I’d love to see this grow into a thriving community. Maybe even weekly/monthly Zoom calls, book clubs, workshops? I don’t know what trajectory it will take because it is a living breathing creation between us. We are co-creating this community, it would just be me on an island without you.
More than anything, though? This is a safe space to unravel and come as you are.
The Blog: My Creative Outlet
Alongside the community space, I keep a blog here. It’s my creative outlet.
It is where I unravel my own healing and explore the tangled threads of selfhood. Where I muse about all the confusing, heartbreaking, and sometimes absurd parts of society. And it is where I am learning to chase my joy, too. Writing is how I make sense of things.
Some posts might be dark.
Some might be messy.
Some might be angry, or tender, or full of questions with no answers.
None will be perfect.
Getting out the words at all is the important part for me right now. I’m deeply challenging my perfectionism to write and share posts at all.
I write in hopes that something resonates. That someone out there reads a line and feels a little less alone. That maybe, in the act of sharing vulnerably, I can turn my unraveling into connection.
This blog isn’t polished or preformative.
It’s just me, thinking out loud.
And you’re welcome to sit with it, respond to it, or let it be background noise while you process your own story.
There’s no pressure here.
I don’t want to be anyone’s leader.
I don’t want followers.
I just want to be in the room with you, in conversation with you.
So if you’ve been searching for a place to unravel, or to create authentic connections, or even just to exist with other fiercely kind, compassionate humans – you are so welcome here.
I’ve saved you a seat. Not because I have answers, but because I believe in the power of showing up anyway.